Teens and Boyfriends and Girlfriends

I have 2 teenage kids as you all know, Austin is soon to be 16 in a few months and Joli soon to be 14 shortly. Austin is in 10th grade, Joli is in 8th. Well lately we have been coming across the issue of the boyfriend and girlfriend whole ordeal. Well I believe hanging with a group of friends and doing things as a couples is ok(supervised). I am sure I will get back lash on this issue, which I hope I don't. My daughter Joli is currently using the word boyfriend with her new guy friend and it bothers her dad and I a little, but we also know that she is a teen and that word is often thrown around. My son has had girlfriend here and there none really serious and none were he used the word regularly, and his main focus is sports,lol...go figure. However Joli is at the stage were she uses the word boyfriend. She's almost 14 but we think she uses the word to loosely, with Not a real understanding of the word ,because of her age.. Well, we want her to have boys as friends and with boyfriends comes drama and teen issues clearly NO parent wants to face those issues. At the same time I want her to understand that her dad and I care for her and know that she may really LIKE a boy, but do you have to call him your boyfriend? At her age..........it seems that meetin up with a boy at the movies is fine now a days, and back in my day ......it was a NO NO,LOL......, now teens are meetin up at movies, bowling, and skating rinks, and other places, as couples. We allow Joli to attend things like these with other friends, and yes even with boys, as long as theres a group, to some that may be wrong???? We are parents that believe in TRUST, and Joli has NEVER broken are trust, and the only real issue right now with her is the BOYFRIEND word, and its meaning. That being said, we allow her freind(aka) to come over to our home, eat pizza, watch movies, and hang out with her, completely supervised!!! So in a way I told my husband maybe we are promoting in a way that the boyfriend word we so do not like is, is ok with the actions we are allowing to go on, with the issues of doing bowling, movies, allowing him over, and so on. This is a strong issue for me, and I have had to deal with it so much with my daughter, and what we believe and she believes, and we know how she feels, but in the same time we know how we feel, and I am sure many of you are saying well you are the adult, just say NO, well really why??....She has almost a 4.0 GPA, is active with youth and attends church and is really a well behaved daughter, helps, loving, and very caring, and  very trustworthy. I believe and my hubby slightly does, that the meaning will come more clearer to her as she grow and matures threw growing up, and my husband also says, really Michelle, we have guided her who she is now, and we have FAITH she will always do whats the right thing. I could go on and on on this issue, I just needed to clear my head a little, and ramble, and boy did I...lol...well, I am sure we all have mixed feelings about this issue, and I hope I can understand that her word BOYFRIEND is not the end of the world I guess.........................Just a Word that to parents seems like the end of the world......

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My 2 teens- Austin and Joli- I LOVE them sooooooooo MUCH:)